I recently read about a very sad singles event in NYC called Fashion Meets Finance, which basically tries to couple guys who work in finance, and women who work in fashion. “An event created for the two highest profile, high-pressure industries in the city. Working in Fashion or Finance guarantees a number of enticing perks, but they both lack one crucial factor… it’s near impossible to meet someone of the opposite sex.” (Fashion Meets Finance) The next one will take place on May 5th.
The saddest part of this event and concept is that I myself have been forced to attend one of these things, many years ago in London. My friend decided to host one, and my business partner at the time (when I had my lingerie company) decided (without asking me) that we should sponsor the event. At the time, I could stomach the idea of the event. Even though I loathed bankers (because I had never met any decent ones), I was ok with attending the event because I had a boyfriend. The fact that I wasn’t single made this a work event I could just barely deal with.
Of course that wasn’t to last, I was dumped two weeks before the event, and had to come to grips with the fact that I was going to be attending Fashion Girl Meets City Boy as a single woman. The event was as painful as I expected, no interesting guys, a sad atmosphere, and the general feel of desperation. I spent most of the night downstairs (which was just a normal bar) flirting with the bartender and DJ (much more likely potential suitors, given my taste in men.)
The problem with these events is the presumption that fashion women are best suited to date guys in finance, or vice versa. “In the New York dating scene, the men of finance are the lions, and the women of fashion are the trophies. We have to maintain the purity of the genetic lines.” explains the Fashion Meets Finance founder to The Cut, which I am sure most of you will agree is a comment distasteful enough to make us all projectile vomit across the room. Having the right job will not ensure a good relationship (although having A job definitely helps.) I’ve found myself with a lot of guys in the creative industries but the one thing they’ve almost all had in common is our taste in music, which was because I socialized with people who had the same taste in music. Lumping a bunch of fashion girls and finance guys into a room is just pathetic: the girls will be looking for high earners, and the guys will be thinking that a fashion girl is going to somehow entitle them a place in the so-called glamorous fashion industry. Or maybe they just want to meet a model.
Images from Fashion Meets Finance.